How to Cope With Parental Burnout: 5 Practical Ways to Recharge

How to Cope with Parental Burnout
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Parenting is a beautiful journey that we can pretty much compare to a roller coaster ride – filled with ups and downs that does not seem to end.  Unfortunately, there are times when parents can feel excessively tired, cranky, unproductive, useless, and not enough.  Have you felt the same way too?  Then this means that you are suffering from parental burnout.

What is Parental Burnout?

Parental burnout exists and is becoming more prevalent lately.  It is a term that describes resentment, physical and emotional fatigue, de-motivation, and even depression in some parents who are overly stressed with parenting and a pile of other obligations.

According to studies and research, the changes in our society and culture are huge contributing factors that brought about the rise of this syndrome.  So how do you know if you have parental burnout?  These are the signs that you need to watch out for:

    • Emotionally distancing from child
    • Lack of motivation to go on
    • Feeling useless as a parent
    • Easily angered by the child even for simplest and smallest reasons

The bad thing is that not only parents are affected by parental burnout.  This can take a toll on your child, too and the effects can last for a long time.  For this reason, moms and dads should partake in activities that allow them to “recharge” and prevent fatigue.

Having said that, I decided to ask other parents for practical solutions on how to cope with parental burnout.

How to Cope

If you feel like you can no longer take it all, here are some of the many suggestions from parents like you and I to avoid falling prey to parental burnout:

Shop

I shop for my son to de-stress.  I usually do this with a mom friend so I have a chance to talk to another adult (and keep my sanity lol).  This technique is like hitting two birds with one stone – shopping for things that my kid needs while socializing with other moms without feeling guilty of leaving my husband and kid behind.  I feel invigorated after doing this kind of errand.  You should try it, too.

Have a Vent Buddy

It is really frustrating for me every time my 3-year old son and I argue.  I always remind myself that I need to understand his context because he does not always get my point of view… and shouting at him does not help at all.

Whenever I feel like I am about to explode, I take a break from arguing with my son and call or text a friend.  I whine, and nag, and even swear if need be just to let everything out of my system.  After this, I feel a bit better and all my anger has simmered.  By the time I go back to my son, my head is already clear and I can better “hear” what he is saying.  This way, we can better communicate with each other.

If I can’t reach anyone, I simply send an email to myself – the same thing I want to tell my vent buddy during a phone call or text message.

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Relax and Watch a Movie

I feel overwhelmed with all the responsibilities – imagine another human being is fully dependent on me for everything.  As a result, I worry almost every time even when I am near my kiddo.  This is where parental burnout comes creeping in.

When this happens, I watch a movie – more than once a month.  I choose movies that do not last for more than two hours.  As I am engrossed with the characters in the movie, I temporarily forget about my woes and worries.  This, honestly, feels like a mini-vacation for me.  As soon as I go out, I feel like a different person.

Go for a Run

This is the same thing as having a vent buddy as this helps keep my head clear.  Before I go to work, I run for 15 minutes to decompress and work on things that are stressing me out.   

This 15-minute run might not be much but it helps me work something out on my head while keeping my body healthy and active.  By the time I get home, I feel happier and, surprisingly, more patient.

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Let Your Partner Take Over

Parenting on your own is hard.  Plus, it makes you crazy as you incessantly want to control everything.  Sometimes, I decide to take a step back.  I tell myself to bail on some activities and let my husband handle it.

For instance, I let my husband take my son to the park so I can stay at home.  I can clean, read a book, catch on my favorite series, or just sit down and relax.  This rewards us both – my husband gets to bond with my son and I get some time to reboot.


Remember that parenting is not like a job wherein you can just resign anytime you want.  You cannot give up or quit on your kids.  But if you take note of the practical tips in this post that are proven effective by other parents, I am sure that you will feel happy.  You will never fall prey to parental burnout ever again.


Elkyra Park is a first-time mom who can no longer count how many baby products she has reviewed for her sanity and her son’s sake.  She discusses about the realities of parenthood and how to gracefully cope with the struggles over at www.easyparentinghacks.com

What to Do When Your Finances Are Stressing You Out

Financial stress is a common burden for many young families.

Growing a family is no small feat and finances have a lot to do with it.  Children come with their own unique set of needs and financial obligations and the more children you have, the more of a financial burden it can be.

Choosing one parent to stay at home with the kids can also create a stressful scenario as the family moves down to one income.  All of this added stress caused by finances can have a big impact on a person’s physical and mental health.

So what do you do when your finances are stressing you out?
When Your Finances Stress You Out
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Budget

Obviously, the first step is to figure out what your financial situation is.  If you want to reduce the amount of stress you’re under, you need to make sure that you’re living within your means.  This normally requires making a list of all of your income sources and then another list of your mandatory payments and purchases and figuring out what’s left over.

You should review your budget at least every few months, and definitely when there is any kind of big change.  A new baby, moving, purchasing a mini van or even a family vacation can all have an impact on the budget.

Knowing exactly how much you have to spend each month can give you a sense of control and direction, which will help to reduce stress.

Prioritize

Family priorities are different from those of a young bachelor or single woman.  If you haven’t already discussed and ranked your family’s priorities, then now is the time to do that.  Spend your money on the things that are most important first, and leave the things you could do without until last, and only if there is anything left over afterwards.

This can be a tough decision but it all comes down to what is most important to your family.  Life insurance, for example, can be a huge priority for some, and not nearly nearly as important to others.  If this is the case for you, then you could consider selling your life insurance policy for cash.

While it may be hard to decide, knowing that every cent is going towards something important can make you feel confident in your financial situation.

Balance

Finding balance can be like searching for the Holy Grail for many young families.  Balancing a budget is just as hard as trying to balance time between work and family.  But when things are out of balance, it can leave us feeling frazzled, lost and stressed out.

In order to achieve the right balance, you may have to cut some things out of your life, like subscriptions, memberships or dining out.  Or look into options for earning more money, such as babysitting, selling something you own or starting a blog.

If the budget doesn’t balance, then it can cause a great deal of debt.  And the only way to truly reduce the amount of stress caused by your finances, is to make sure that you are only spending what you have. 


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