It’s important to feel good about yourself because if you don’t, it can be difficult to function in your everyday life. When you’re down on yourself, it’s hard to make decisions or stay motivated. It’s also hard to be around other people because you might not feel confident in yourself. All of this can lead to a lot of stress and unhappiness.
But there are things you can do to change this! By taking care of yourself in the ways described below, you can start to feel better about yourself regularly. This will make it easier for you to interact with others, make decisions, and stay motivated. You’ll also be less likely to stress out about things that don’t matter.
There are many ways to take care of yourself in the long term. This will ensure that you start off on the right path and can continue healthy habits for the rest of your life. Here are a few that you can start doing today:
Exercising is one of the best things you can do for your body and mind. It not only helps you stay healthy, but it also makes you feel good about yourself. When you exercise, your body releases endorphins, which are hormones that make you feel happy and euphoric. Exercise also has many other benefits, such as improving your mood, increasing your energy level, and helping you lose weight.
There are many different types of exercise to choose from, so find something that you enjoy doing. If you don’t like running or lifting weights, try swimming, biking, or dancing instead. And if you really don’t know where to start, consult a personal trainer to help get you started on the right foot.
Be Mindful of Yourself
When you’re mindful of yourself, you’re more likely to make choices that are good for you. This means being aware of your thoughts, feelings, and physical sensations. When you’re mindful, you’re less likely to eat unhealthy foods or engage in harmful behaviors. You’ll be more likely to make time for yourself and do things that make you happy. Mindfulness is a great way to feel good about yourself over the long term!
Feed Yourself the Right Diet
Eating healthy is one of the most important things you can do for yourself. When you eat nutritious foods, your body gets the nutrients it needs to function properly. Eating unhealthy foods can lead to health problems such as obesity, heart disease, and diabetes.
The best way to ensure that you’re eating healthy foods is to plan ahead. Make a list of healthy meals you can make during the week, and make sure to grocery shop for the ingredients you need. Some healthy and delicious options include salmon, chicken breast, quinoa, and vegetables.
It’s also important to drink plenty of water. Dehydration can cause fatigue, headaches, and dizziness. Try to drink at least eight glasses of water per day.
Invest in Your Appearance
When you feel good about yourself, it’s natural to want to look your best. One way to do that is by investing in your looks. This might mean getting a haircut or color that makes you feel more confident, buying some new clothes that fit well and make you feel good, or even getting permanent hair removal. Whatever it is, make sure it’s something that makes you feel happy and beautiful!
Take the Time to Rest
Rest is an essential part of taking care of yourself. When you’re tired, your body and mind aren’t functioning at their best. This can lead to problems such as decreased productivity, poor decision-making, and irritability.
One of the best ways to ensure that you’re getting enough rest is to establish a regular sleep schedule. Go to bed and wake up at the same time every day, even on weekends. This might be difficult at first, but it will get easier over time.
Lastly, Build Your Self-Confidence
Self-confidence is important because it allows you to feel good about yourself. When you have self-confidence, you’re more likely to take risks and go after what you want in life. You’re also less likely to worry about what other people think of you.
There are many things you can do to build your self-confidence. One way is to set goals and achieve them. When you accomplish something, even if it’s something small, you’ll feel good about yourself. Another way to boost your confidence is by surrounding yourself with positive people. These are the people who will make you feel good about yourself and support your endeavors.
Taking time for themselves is something that all moms need to do but practicing a self-care routine is essential to treating postpartum depression.
Self-care doesn’t always need to consist of spa days or alone time. While different things appeal to different women and personalities – there are some simple, basic, everyday tasks that can make a huge difference to one’s mood and patience level.
Keeping postpartum depression symptoms under control means having to stay one step ahead of them, otherwise it’s very easy to drown in the shuffle of everyday motherhood.
Here are some self care tips for mothers battling postpartum depression.
What is self-care?
It’s all the things you need to do to take care of YOU. It’s not being selfish and only focusing on yourself. It’s adding your needs to the list, at the same priority level as everything else.
Self-care is a huge topic among parents, especially stay at home moms. And the biggest question it raises is how the heck are you supposed to take care of yourself AND the tiny humans who demand so much of your attention?
The nature of a mother is to put their children first and therefore, self-care often gets bumped to the bottom of the to-do list. I’m quite guilty of it myself and sometimes life gets SO busy that I don’t even realize how long it’s been since I showered or blow-dried my hair.
When to do self-care
Trying to fit a self-care routine into an already packed day is impossible, I know. There are never, nor will there ever be, enough minutes in the day to get everything accomplished.
This means you’re going to have to sacrifice something. It could be sleep (sleep? what’s that?), it could be that extra time with your kids before bed, it could be the gourmet dinner you cook every night.
Or perhaps there is a way to work your self-care routine into your existing routine with the kids. There’s no rule that says self-care must equal alone time so feel free to involve your kids or partner.
Whatever you need to do, do it and make time for you.
I had a ghastly image of myself in my head and I feared that if I looked at myself in the mirror I would realize it had come true. The few times I did make eye contact with myself, I immediately broke into tears because I absolutely hated myself and standing in front of the mirror meant coming face to face with my worst enemy.
But I wasn’t afraid to look at myself when I had a little makeup on. When I was showered and my hair was done and I was in decent clothes – for a moment, I forgot about that pile of muck. This was someone else I was looking at, talking to, admiring in the mirror. That pile of muck was still there but I didn’t have to look at her. I didn’t have to face her and all the sadness she brought with her.
So while some might consider self-care a type of vanity, I felt that it was the only way for me to escape the rut I was in.
Developing a good self-care routine is extremely important both during your battle with postpartum depression after you’ve started treatments to reduce the chance of a relapse.
How to Do Self Care
Begin with the bare minimum. It’s sad that we have to remind ourselves to do these things each day, but over time they become less and less of a priority. For a new mom, it’s hard to figure out how to take care of two people instead of one. Or for a mom with a mental illness, these are some things that don’t seem worth the trouble. But they are worth it – and it is possible to do them, every single day.
Brush your teeth
So simple right? Not when you’re awoken by the loud screams of children at 6 am. You rush out of bed to see what’s happening and deal with whatever new fiasco they’ve created. And then coffee is the first thought on your mind. You’ll brush after coffee – that makes sense, right? Then you won’t have coffee breath! Smart woman!
Except you never, ever, finish that cup of coffee…
It sits there getting cold. Maybe you walk by once or twice and stick it in the microwave to heat it up and then forget about it there. Before you know it the hubby is home from work and for some reason he’s not going in for that smooch…
Take the shower!
There are so many days when this feels like an impossible feat. It takes more than a few minutes and we all know what kind of trouble kids can get into in that time. If it means letting them have some extra screen time while you shower, then it’s worth it. If all else fails – take them in with you!
But putting it off means you’re putting yourself off, and self-care is all about putting yourself FIRST! So take the shower!
A nice, hot shower before bed is a great way to help you sleep at night, so if you can’t fit one in during the day – try to squeeze it in after the kids are down for the night. If the thought of taking a shower feels like the last thing you want to do after an extremely long day, then it’s what you need most. Trust me and just TAKE THE SHOWER!!!
Change your clothes
Changing from flannel pajama pants into black leggings counts. Don’t stay in your pajamas all day even if they’re the comfiest thing on earth and you’re not going anywhere anyway. I’ve gone so far as to use the excuse that I don’t want to make more laundry for myself. But even if you wear the same “daytime” clothes for a week – change out of your pajamas.
The act of changing your clothes – even if they are from one pair of sweatpants to another, is enough to trick your brain into thinking you’ve done something productive.
Do your hair & makeup
This one is more important to some than others. I’ve never been a “full face makeup” type of person, but some women absolutely love the process of experimenting with makeup. I got a chance to try the Marc Jacobs Velvet Primer and Mascara for free and it was like putting on false lashes without the fuss! Join Influenster and you can start getting free products to try, too!
If you have a particular problem area that makes you self-conscious then take care of that so you can feel confident enough to face the world. It might sound superficial or vain, but it’s amazing how much more confident you feel when you know that you look good. And keep in mind that the only person you’re trying to impress… is yourself.
Give yourself a pep talk
Every time I start to feel overwhelmed, a little “you can do this” under my breath reminds me that I need to stay positive. It is SO easy to lose that motivation when you are battling postpartum depression because you are in a constant state of darkness. Find some way to remind yourself to stay in the light.
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Take your vitamins
Sufferers of postpartum depression are infamous for their terrible eating habits – either not enough or too much. And because of that, we often end up with all kinds of vitamin deficiencies which can have a huge effect on our mental health. So if you’re not able to eat as healthy as you should, you should be taking supplements in order to get your levels back up to where they should be.
Magnesiumis what worked wonders for me. Magnesium deficiencies are known to cause symptoms of depression, so make sure that you take a regular magnesium supplement to keep symptoms at bay.
Vitamin D – get outside in the sun! Not only does 20 minutes in the sunshine top up your Vitamin D levels but the fresh air does wonders for your soul.
Vitamin B Complexto make sure you’re getting the right amount of nutrition despite your messed up appetite.
Aromatherapy and essential oils have huge mood-boosting benefits. An easy way to fit aromatherapy into your postpartum depression self care routine is by using an essential oil diffuser. Have your favorite, calming, essential oils and blends fill your entire home all day long to make sure that you’re surrounded by positive energy. (Not sure where to start? Check out the mood collection by Rocky Mountain Oils)
And it doesn’t have to be a BIG thing. A spa day is great but so is binge watching Netflix. A beach vacation may not be in the budget, but relaxing outside in a hammock or inflatable couch is. [I like the ones from Pouch Couch]
Focus on ONE extra activity that makes you feel happy and relaxed and ONE thing only. As moms we spend most of our days multi-tasking, and there is so much pressure to become a mom who can bake and sew and do crafts and plan parties (thanks a lot, Pinterest) and it becomes overwhelming and exhausting.
Your self-care routine should consist of something that makes you feel happy and relaxed afterwards. It doesn’t have to be productive and you don’t need to justify it. You just need to do it.
It can be difficult to fit in time for self-care, especially as a busy mom. Check out my post How to Create a Self-Care Routine as a SAHM for more tips plus download a free workbook to help you create a schedule that works!
Write about it
Keeping a journal of your thoughts can be hugely therapeutic for postpartum depression survivors in many different ways. Not only is the act of writing out your thoughts and feelings a way to release them, but it also helps you keep track of whether they are getting better or worse.
Whatever self-care routine you end up carving out for yourself, make sure that you stick to it in order to prevent relapses. Communicate with your partner about how important these things are for your mental health so that they can support you. And don’t ever feel guilty about putting yourself first because if mom is happy, then the entire household is happy.